Spot the signs of isolation

Social isolation affects people from all walks of life, but can affect veterans especially. Physical injury, mental health and distressing events can leave people feeling withdrawn or unable to cope as they try to adjust to their new normal.  This can be particularly prevalent at Christmas. 

For some, losing military connections and the sense of camaraderie can also be overwhelming. For many, staying in is a safety net. Those who are the most lonely and isolated are the least likely to ask for help. 

Please look out for anyone showing signs of withdrawal and isolation over the festive season and encourage them to reconnect and seek help.  

SPOTTING THE SIGNS

• Look out for changes in behaviour – watch out for behaviour that suggests someone may be struggling. For example, not answering phone calls; no longer attending events; unwillingness to engage in conversation; they seem sad or unmotivated; not opening their curtains or answering their doors.  

HOW TO HELP

• Make simple connections – for someone who is isolated the simplest things can make a real difference, whether it’s a smile and a wave through a window, a text, a note through the door or an invitation to a community event. You may be the only outside connection they have that day    
  
• Go walking – invite them for a walk - the physical and mental health benefits are endless! Why not see if any of your other neighbours fancy joining, too?
•  Find common ground – those in the military don’t always understand civilians and vice versa. This misunderstanding can build barriers that need to be broken down, so find something universal to talk about like local news, sport, or your favourite music and films. 
• Get support – if you think someone is really struggling, encourage them to get professional support. Any veteran struggling with mental or physical health as a result of their service can reach out for advice and support.  

Requests for our support have surged by 54 per cent in the past year*. Veterans reaching out to us often have unique mental and physical health challenges related to their service.   

Sights they have seen and dangers they've faced during their careers can have a lasting and devastating impact, leaving many feeling misunderstood and alone.

At Christmas, things can feel more tough. At a time when there’s constant pressure to have fun, even in a room full of people, battling loneliness can feel overwhelming. And isolation often wins the war. 

Thousands more veterans who risked their lives for us still struggle in silence. Facing their own battles. Feeling forgotten and unable to reach out for help.

Your message of hope has the power to break through that deafening silence and encourage them to come forward for support. 

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